Everybody seems confused. 

It's almost as if we are all just guessing. Nobody is 100% sure.

Young people dread marriage. 

They want to keep postponing it. Until they can postpone it no longer.

Good men and women who have vowed. To make their relationship work. Often end up giving up.

What is really the problem?

Most Importantly...

Perhaps you've experienced something similar. The love was great and heavenly.

Then it became ordinary. 

Then you started tolerating each another.

Then you began to feel pressured to bend. To compromise. To change who you are.

Then you started to feel negative emotions. 

Sometimes guilt. 

Sometimes shame. 

Sometimes anger. 

Sometimes resentment.

If you've experienced anything similar (even if slightly)...

... then you may have been infected. And may need the antidote.

You deserve a kind of relationship...

Where you grow old together. With strong love. And deep appreciation for one another.

A kind where trust, respect and loyalty is solid.

...where security, friendship, and a real commitment is guaranteed.

A type where the affection and romance gets stronger. As you grow older.

A type where you don't have to give up your identity or your dreams.

Where you don't have to compromise on your happiness.

You owe it to yourself and your future. To make a life of fulfillment your reality.

And it has nothing to do with money, looks or education.

Because if it does, couples with wealth, beauty and education. Would never have marriage issues.

But we all know that's not the case.

New evidence is beginning to show...

That it has everything to do with your knowledge, skill, and understanding.

That's why you may need to first realize.

That...

It's common sense.

The more you know about something, the better you become.

You became good at your job (and every other thing you are good at) because you worked on your knowledge. You worked on your skill.

Even your natural talents. Got some training. Before you became excellent.

Take the Messi's and C Ronaldo's of this world. 

Look at your favorite musicians and actors.

They were already talented. 

But  still had to go through training. To refine their talent.

 Marriage is no different. 

Even if your ability to love. Comes naturally. You still need to polish them. To make them shine.

But look around. 

Ask yourself: why is there no relationship schools or classes for single people? 

Why are there no mentorship for people actively dating?

The closest we have is a marriage class. Usually few months to wedding.

People are left to figure it out.

All on their own.

Yet we wonder. Why there is so much confusion and frustration.

We have almost no one with complete clarity. No one to guide.

So people rely on nothing else. But trials and error.

And if you've noticed, relationships has little tolerance for error.

A big mistake is fatal. The small ones are even worse. 

They mostly go unnoticed. And seem so innocent. Until they accumulate. And then they explode.

That's when things break down irreversibly or the couples start looking for therapy.

By then, it's late already.

But it doesn't have to be that way.

If only these couples knew. If only someone has told them.

That there was a different way.

Then it could have all been prevented. 

If only they had a full understanding. Of the real communication dynamics. Of a natural, healthy relationship.

Then their story will be different.

Everybody keep advising couples. To learn to tolerate one another.

But...

They are supposed to appreciate one another.

They are supposed to get to that place where life without the other feels less interesting.

This is something that we used to see in the olden days.

A couple grow old together with grand children. Yet, they seem inseparable.

We used to hear of stories. Where one partner goes to meet their ancestors. Few months later, the other follows.

But how did they grow to this level?

How did two strangers become inseparable soul mates whose love story continues even in the afterlife?

No concrete steps. No guide. No clear details of how understand really works.

So couples continue to guess. They continue to try out different things. They continue to make errors. In an environment with low tolerance for errors.

So it is no surprise. That couples continue to divorce.

And those still together. Continue to endure. Continue to bend. Continue to compromise.

But what they don't know. Is that even though everybody seems confused and unsure.

That everybody seems to be guessing.

The exact map to follow. If you want to fully understand each other.

If you want to build a relationship. That gets sweeter with age — like fine wine.

And one thing they've discovered is that...

Most relationships don’t collapse because of one big fight. They die because of small hurts. That build up quietly.

Even the big fights are often an accumulated effect. Of the small hurts.

So if those small hurts. If those small things that couples often take for granted. Are a big cause of relationship collapse.

Isn't it wise. To develop the skills. To handle them effortlessly?

Because if couples can learn to successfully deal with those small things by default.

Most relationship problems won't happen. Most big fights won't occur.

And the widespread divorce epidemic — and relationship dissatisfaction — won't be our reality.

But...

Psychologists call them micro patterns.

They are those tiny nuances in your behavior. That affects other people without them realizing.

If you've found your emotions towards someone suddenly shifting. Without knowing why. Then micro patterns might be responsible.

They mostly operate below the conscious level.

That's why they wreck havoc without any hindrance.

But once you become aware of them, they begin to lose their power.

What they've discovered is that when it comes to relationships...

They call them:

1. Gender nuances and...

2. Communication micro-habits

Gender nuances are those differences in the way we expect others to understand and respond to us because of how the differences in our gender color the way we see the world.

Let's break it down with clear examples:

When women complain to their partners. About work challenges. What do most men do?

They try to advise her. They try to help. They try to fix the issue for her.

Why? Because they love her and want the best for her. 

But every woman instinctively knows. That it is a bad idea. 

But most men don't. 

And then they wonder. Why their woman continues to do the very thing. He has advised her against.

And so even though he has the best of intentions, he only ends up achieving the opposite effect.

This is how resentments slowly builds up.

Until two people who were once inseparable. Begins to just tolerate one another.

Take another example...

Every man instinctively knows. That it is a bad idea to give unsolicited advice. To another man. 

He must ask before you give. He must come to you first.

Else he will take it personal. He sees it as an insult. 

His instincts interprets it as you telling him. That he is incompetent.

But most women don't have the slightest clue.

That's why they get confused. When they try advising their man. And get a negative reaction.

She expected appreciation for "being there for him". 

Instead, he paid her back with a negative vibe.

Now she's hurt. He's hurt. They are both hurting. Yet, they don't even know. What the real problem is.

If only she had known. That there was a better way.

If someone had shown them. That  gender difference is at the heart of the matter.

If someone had enlightened them. On what neuroscientists are now discovering about men and women.

Then they would have handled things differently.

They would have taken the time to understand those gender nuances.

They would have learned how to unite their differences.

But most people don't know...

That neuroscientists have conclusively proven. Through various analysis. Like MRI, EEG, PET, DTI, brain anatomy and a whole host of others.

That the structure and functioning of a male and female brain is fundamentally different.

So we're not only different physically. We're also different mentally and emotionally.

Let that sink in: you're mentally and emotionally different from your partner — not just physically.

But nobody teaches couples this.

Nobody has ever educated them. On how these gender nuances affect nearly every part of their relationship.

And how to use that knowledge as a stepping stone. To build the relationship of their dream.

That why there is a lot of misunderstanding.

That's why most couples continue to drift apart. Without being aware of what's going on.

And the big fights begin to follow.

And then it gets harder and harder. To tolerate one another. Then they begin to talk about irreconcilable differences.

Which should never have happened in the first place.

Psychologists like to call these micro patterns "relationship landmines".

But these patterns are even more dangerous. Than a real landmine because...

 Unlike the real landmines that explode loudly. With visible, immediate effects.

Relationship landmines explode quietly. With their effects showing up much later.

So couples don't get to learn from them. They don't get to make corrections.

If couples can learn to spot these nuances. Most relationship problems. Will disappear almost overnight.

And there are over 100s of playing out in most relationships. 

Each of them trigger their own set of reactions  and have hidden consequences. 

If couples could understand these nuances, and learn to take advantage of them, most relationships will be heavenly.

Because 80% of most relationship problems. Will be non-existent.

To deal with the remaining 20%, you will need to learn to about...

Has this ever happened to you? 

You try to speak to someone you're close to. On something that is bothering you.  

Maybe something they are doing that is hurting you.

Or just something that you wish, want or desire.

Or just your opinion on a certain issue.

You speak from your heart. You say it the way you feel it. You expect them to understand your feeling.

But instead of feeling understood and heard, you feel like you are hitting a brick wall.

You feel like you are touching a wound inside them.

Maybe they apologize. Or act like they agree.

But deep inside you can sense that they don't. Or that what you just said has offended them in a way.

You know that what you said is correct. What you said is the fact. What you said is inoffensive.

But somehow... 

According to these psychologists. 95% of the time. What you said is not the cause.

You communication micro habit is the the cause.

These are the tiny details of your communication pattern.

What were you thinking in your head? What were you feeling in your body? How were you feeling it? 

The moment before you said it?

Because as these psychologists have discovered. Every emotion comes with different flavors.

We might both be angry. 

But the flavor of my anger might be different from yours.

That's where the way the other person will reach to you is determined. Long before you utter a single word.

And when you finally say it, what was the  structure of your words?

These things are not genetics. They are a product of habit — a product of your environment.

But they are constantly evolving and are mostly unconscious.

That's why they wreck havoc. Without any hindrance.

Because you're NOT conscious of them.

But once you become aware, they begin to lose their power.

There are simple techniques. That help you become aware of these micro habits.

And begin to change them. To work in your favor.

If couples knew about this, most of the problems they go through in their relationships. Will be non-existent.

And by the way...

My name is Anthony LoveBuddy.

I've always been someone who tend to look at the world differently.

Maybe that's why people often come to me for advice.

Many years ago, I noticed this disturbing epidemic. And I became restless. 

I dreaded it happening to me. 

So I went into intense research. I devoured every written piece I could, consumed every related video,  and observed lots of couples keenly.

Years later, patterns emerged. Then I started noticing. That my advice work.

I will advise a man or a woman. On what to do. They will do it.

Then issues that have seem unsolvable for months. Just tend to disappear almost overnight.

That was when it dawned on me. That I've been given a gift. That I must share with the world.

So I packaged it in a digital book. In Google docs format. And came to Facebook to create awareness.

I've titled it:

This is not one of those books. That give you  theories. And leave you to figure out the details yourself.

This one breaks everything down and make it so simple and practical. That anybody can understand and apply it.

It shows you the A-Z. Of starting, nurturing, and protecting a relationship. That leads to a marriage. Where the sweetness, love, and happiness. Lasts a life time.

Each chapter contains real examples, ready-to-use scripts and step-by-step exercises. That you can try tonight.